As many of you know, I tend to use the I Ching for big political questions. Some are vexed by this, because they understand the oracle as being more appropriate for intimate personal questions. My own sense is that it can be used for both with equal benefit. Today, however, I will ask a more personal question. In light of my current circumstances, I went to the oracle with this query: What is the way forward without my son, Aidan?
The I Ching came back with a message of caution: go slowly in adapting to the new context of relationships in the aftermath of Aidan's death. Do not force adaptations to his absence, be mindful of differences among family members on what is now appropriate, and keep an eye on maintaining the integrity of the family as a whole.