A good story in the NYT today about transracial adoption in the US, focusing on the complexities of white parents with black children.
As I read through it, it struck me that a Confucian point of view would conclude that the practice is generally good: what matters is not race, though that may pose some social challenges for the family, but the intention and behavior of the parents. If they conscientiously do the right thing - or develop the sensitivity to know what the "right thing" is in various circumstances - they will be able to raise their children to be morally grounded persons.
First, the numbers:
In 2004, 26 percent of black children adopted from foster care, about
4,200, were adopted transracially, nearly all by whites. That is up
from roughly 14 percent, or 2,200, in 1998, according to a New York
Times analysis of data from the National Data Archive on Child Abuse
and Neglect at Cornell University and from the Department of Health and Human Services.
And now the challenges:
White families adopting black children are increasingly learning
that the “love is enough” approach to adoption that families bring to
the process is often met with skepticism.
Psychologists,
researchers and adoptees themselves say many children adopted
transracially in past decades suffered from philosophies focused on
assimilation, with little or no acknowledgment of racial and cultural
conflict.
Robert O’Connor, 39, who was raised by a white family
in Rush City, Minn., recalled his struggles growing up in a small town
with few other blacks. Throughout his youth, he said, he felt awkward
around other blacks. He did not understand black trends in fashion or
music or little things like playing the dozens, the oral tradition of
dueling insults.
“I always felt like I had this ‘A’ on my
forehead, this adoptee, that people could see from a far distance that
I was different,” said Mr. O’Connor, who now researches transracial
adoptions as assistant professor of social work at Metropolitan State
University in St. Paul.
As I was reading I was thinking "love is enough." The passage above helped remind me of the social dynamics of race: even if the parents are doing the right thing, there will still be moments of tension and difficulty because of the externally generated social expectations about race and family that surround them. Those forces should not stop adoptions - which should be determined by the needs of the individual children and parents involved - but should, as they are, be identified as issues for a multiracial family.
So, why would a modern day Confucian agree that transracial adoption - and this would also include international adoption of, say, Chinese children by foreign parents - is generally acceptable? Because what matters for Confucian morality is not some static (stultifying) notion of ethnic or national exclusivity, but behavior. Becoming a noble-minded person, for Confucius, is not the birth right of any particular ethnic or national group. In the Chinese world (can we call his time a "Chinese world"? Had "China" then taken on all of the characteristics we associate with "Chinese" now?) of his time, very few people behaved in such a manner as to approach his ideal of Humanity". In short, not all, indeed very few, Chinese persons were noble-minded.
One had to learn - arduously over many years - how to be noble-minded. One had to work at it every day. In one sense is it easy. In the Analects he says that Humanity is right there next to us: it is plain to see the right and the good in the circumstances that surround us. But, in another sense, it is very hard to attain: we must resist myriad temptations of greed and self-interest to find and do the right thing.
So, morality is not a racial characteristic. It is available to anyone who cares to work toward it. If white parents can demonstrate good intentions and capabilities for raising black children, that is for the good. They should be judged on their performance as parents, not their race. And the same goes for black parents adopting white children, which, while statistically less common, should in no way be discouraged.
Confucius was, ultimately, a cosmopolitan. He was less interested in defending the racial "purity" of China or any other place, and more interested in developing the ethical sensibilities of people in various cultural contexts (it was the Warring States period after all) to find and perform the right thing.
UPDATE: The Asia Pages has some thoughts on this same NYT article from a Korean perspective.
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